9.26.2012

CAN WE BE HONEST RIGHT NOW?

I desperately need to remember the quote below and want to make it my mantra for the time being.  Time to take a break from the cooking, cleaning, picture-taking, blogging, Facebooking, shopping, Tweeting, pinning, socializing fiends we can be recognize this:


Life, in this day and age, as a women, can be a challenge.  And that challenge often results in the feeling that we are constantly chasing something.  The realization of this is beginning to become known, with articles encouraging people (not just women) to stop the over-glorification of busy and bring the focus back to what it should be: the people in your life, what makes you happy and taking time to care for yourself.  We all know that these days it's go, go, go and I'm afraid we all are getting a bit too close to the tipping point.

Add to that the fact that we're all privy to (what seem to be) the perfect lives of everyone else and at times it can seem like a constant game of show-and-tell.  The problem with the social media these days is that by comparing our lives to others, our own completely warranted joy can seem squashed before we know it.

We're comparing the behind-the scenes of our life with the flashy highlights of others, for the most part.  I've read on numerous blogs, and even had a few comments here, about how readers get this idea that the author is living a glamorous, charmed, put together life and I'll admit I often do this when reading other blogs.  You see the pretty pictures and smiling faces and then you find yourself filling in the blanks of what you don't see and all of a sudden you're comparing their amazing recipes, impeccable wardrobe and picture-perfect family life with your spilled coffee, day old dirty hair and snapping at your husband... sigh.

If I just trolled through my blog, not knowing myself, it would look pretty great.  Nothing extraordinary, but definitely a good life.  And while I definitely do have a life that is blessed beyond I deserve, it's also much harder, messier and un-put-together than it might look.  Yet even though I know this, at times I still find myself idealizing when looking at others and then I end up putting too much emphasis on things that are not near as important as the amazing husband I have, the loving family I live near and the creative abilities God gave me to use for His glory.

I love the quote above.  We MUST move along at a pace that is comfortable for us and develop the maturity to STOP trying to prove something.  The people in our lives love us for who we are, and nothing we can do (good or bad) will change that love.  We need to take joy in our abilities and also know when to rest, and then actually do so.

Over the past few years, I am proud to say I've gotten better at this.  However, I've still got a ways to go.  It is cyclical: I feel like I have things together, but then I become too caught up in having things together and what the image of what a successful, creative, balanced women should be, and then I fall on my face.  God has a sense of humor, I do know that.  And we all know we'll be humbled if need be.

Let's be honest - I can be a hot mess sometimes.  But how boring would life be if you had it all figured out?!  All this is not to say I don't love all the inspiration I find all over the place.  I do, I love blogging and reading what others have to say.  It's a source of creativeness and joy and fulfillment.  I just need to remember that at times, it can be a fine line, and I would much rather live my happy, messy life than constantly try to make it something it's not.

Does anyone else experience this?  I would love to hear your take on it and any advice you have to offer.  Thanks for reading, as always.

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